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How can it be, the One who died,
Has borne our sin through sacrifice
To conquer every sting of death?
Sing, sing hallelujah.
For joy awakes as dawning light
When Christ’s disciples lift their eyes.
Alive He stands, their Friend and King;
Christ, Christ He is risen.
CHORUS
Christ is risen, He is risen indeed!
Oh, sing hallelujah.
Join the chorus, sing with the redeemed;
Christ is risen, He is risen indeed.
Where doubt and darkness once had been,
They saw Him and their hearts believed.
But blessed are those who have not seen,
Yet, sing hallelujah.
Once bound by fear now bold in faith,
They preached the truth and power of grace.
And pouring out their lives they gained
Life, life everlasting.
CHORUS
The power that raised Him from the grave
Now works in us to powerfully save.
He frees our hearts to live His grace;
Go tell of His goodness.
CHORUS
He’s alive, He’s alive!
Heaven’s gates are opened wide.
He’s alive, He’s alive!
Now in heaven glorified.
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Sunday, March 31, 2013
Friday, March 29, 2013
Hymn for Today -- Blessed Redeemer
Blessed Redeemer by Avis Christiansen / Casting Crowns
Up Calvary's mountain one dreadful morn
Walked Christ my Savior, weary and worn
Facing for sinners, death on the cross
That He might save them from endless loss
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
"Father, forgive them," my Savior prayed
Even while His lifeblood flowed fast away
Praying for sinners while in such woe
No one but Jesus ever loved so
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
Dying for me
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
Oh, how I love Him, Savior and Friend
How can my praises ever find end?
Through years unnumbered on Heaven's shore
My songs shall praise Him forevermore
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
Up Calvary's mountain one dreadful morn
Walked Christ my Savior, weary and worn
Facing for sinners, death on the cross
That He might save them from endless loss
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
"Father, forgive them," my Savior prayed
Even while His lifeblood flowed fast away
Praying for sinners while in such woe
No one but Jesus ever loved so
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
Dying for me
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
Oh, how I love Him, Savior and Friend
How can my praises ever find end?
Through years unnumbered on Heaven's shore
My songs shall praise Him forevermore
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see Him on Calvary's tree
Wounded and bleeding, for sinners pleading
Blind and unheeding, dying for me
Monday, March 25, 2013
Memorization Monday - Hebrews 4:12
Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
If you would like to see the entire list of recommended verses from Hebrews to memorize in 2013, check here.
We've also produced a Bible study guide on the book of Hebrews you may be interested in. You can find it here.
If you would like to see the entire list of recommended verses from Hebrews to memorize in 2013, check here.
We've also produced a Bible study guide on the book of Hebrews you may be interested in. You can find it here.
Sunday, March 24, 2013
Hymn of the Week - My Song is Love Unknown
- My song is love unknown,
My Savior’s love to me;
Love to the loveless shown,
That they might lovely be.
O who am I,
That for my sake
My Lord should take
Frail flesh, and die? - He came from His blest throne
Salvation to bestow;
But men made strange, and none
The longed-for Christ would know:
But oh, my Friend,
My Friend indeed,
Who at my need
His life did spend. - Sometimes they strew His way,
And His sweet praises sing;
Resounding all the day
Hosannas to their King:
Then “Crucify!“
Is all their breath,
And for His death
They thirst and cry. - They rise and needs will have
My dear Lord made away;
A murderer they save,
The Prince of life they slay.
Yet cheerful He
To suffering goes,
That He His foes
From thence might free. - In life, no house, no home
My Lord on earth might have;
In death, no friendly tomb,
But what a stranger gave.
What may I say?
Heav’n was His home;
But mine the tomb
Wherein He lay. - Here might I stay and sing,
No story so divine;
Never was love, dear King,
Never was grief like Thine.
This is my Friend,
In whose sweet praise
I all my days
Could gladly spend.
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
The Christian and Fear - A Puritan Devotional
For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world - our faith. 1 John 5:4In the experience of God’s people, it is often found that when their outward condition is troubled, their inward state is full of perplexities and fears. In affliction Satan seeks to make a breach between us and God. He is most malicious to those with whom he has little hope of victory, as in Job’s case. If he cannot run us on a rock, he will seek to upset us with a tempest. If he cannot rob us of grace, he will seek to disturb our peace and comfort. Believers can expect inward and outward trouble because we have married Christ with his cross. We are delivered from the curse indeed, but are appointed to the cross. Outward afflictions may be many and heavy, and come upon the neck of another. We may feel the hard brunt enough to exercise our whole strength of faith and patience. Inward afflictions are far more heavy and grievous than afflictions of the body, for a wounded spirit who can bear? It is not unusual though, that both of these rods come upon us at once, as a load on a broken back. What shall we do? We must take a hold on God by renewed acts of faith. Faith is used not only for our entrance into grace, but also for our continuance and progress through all temptations and difficulties. Faith and prayer must be as the breathing of our souls to keep the heart alive. We must trust the Lord in every change and condition of life. I will lay the weight of my sinking spirit on the free grace of Christ. I will renew my hold, life, and expectations there. This is the path. I will never be turned from it. A trusting Christian in this strength my challenge all the gates of hell. ‘When I am afraid, I put my trust in you’ (Psa. 56:3). Afraid? Alas! Who is not? But what course will you take then? Believe. Use faith always, and have it now!
by Elias Pledger
Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Do you love me more than these?
A week or so ago I posted a short article about the question Jesus asked, "What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul?" You can find that original article here: http://rogert.me/YQ67oy
Today I want to add some additional thoughts that came up as I taught through this passage.
Jesus taught that if we were to follow him we should deny ourselves, take up his cross, and follow him. We are to do this daily. Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 5:15 that because Jesus died for us, we are to live for him rather than for ourselves. The basic principle then is that whoever would save or love his life will lose it. But whoever loses or hates his life for Christ's sake and the gospel's will save it.
It seems that there are two extremes we should avoid. The first is that I must not be a true believer because I can't say that this level of commitment is completely true of me all of the time. The other extreme is to say that Jesus didn't really mean this and we don't have to give it another thought. Obviously he means it in the strongest terms because he says that the potential for loss of our own soul is involved.
So what I want us to do is to review some important principles.
1. The Bible clearly teaches that whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved, (Romans 10:13) and whoever comes to Christ will not be cast out. (John 6:37)
2. We are justified freely by his grace and given the righteousness of God. (Romans 3;24; Phil 3:9) This righteousness includes all of the righteousness which is needed to meet all of the demands of God. This serves as sort of a shield or umbrella protecting us from God's wrath and gaining God's favor while our spiritual growth takes place. As we grow we will be able to deny ourselves in more and more areas of life and in deeper ways as the Holy Spirit brings these things to our attention.
3. When w are saved, we receive many benefits and resources:
God's commitment to finish what he started. (Phil 1:6) In other words, God brought the word to us, he gave us faith, he granted us repentance and he opened our hearts to the gospel.
Sanctification (1 Cor 1:30) which is applied by the Holy Spirit. (2 Thess 2:13)
God gives us a new heat with new motivations. (Ezekiel 36:27)
Being his sheep, we will follow him, but not follow others (John 10:4, 5)
God is at work in us both to will and to do of his good pleasure. (Phil 2:13; Heb 13:21)
The grace he gives us teaches us to deny ungodliness and to live righteous lives. (Titus 2:12)
God has promised to discipline us so we partake in his holiness without which we won't see the Lord (Heb 12:10, 14)
God has promised to prune the vine in order that we might bear fruit. (John 15)
4. God doesn't do it all for us while we sit around and do nothing, but his salvation provides not only the strength to follow and obey, but the desire, motivation, and faith that is required. God holds us responsible, but as Jesus said, "Without me you can do nothing."
Concluding Thoughts:
This is Christ's challenge for all Christians on a daily basis.
He is asking for ultimate loyalty --Jesus Christ above all things and all relationships. Daily the challenge is to put Christ first and reject self. "Today if you will hear his voice, do not harden your heart." (Heb 3:15)
Every day and throughout the day we face choices, to be obedient or not, to die to our own desires or not, to put Christ's teaching into practice or not, to serve others or not. Our choice is similar to the one Jesus gave Peter, "Lovest thou me more than these?"
Today I want to add some additional thoughts that came up as I taught through this passage.
Jesus taught that if we were to follow him we should deny ourselves, take up his cross, and follow him. We are to do this daily. Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 5:15 that because Jesus died for us, we are to live for him rather than for ourselves. The basic principle then is that whoever would save or love his life will lose it. But whoever loses or hates his life for Christ's sake and the gospel's will save it.
It seems that there are two extremes we should avoid. The first is that I must not be a true believer because I can't say that this level of commitment is completely true of me all of the time. The other extreme is to say that Jesus didn't really mean this and we don't have to give it another thought. Obviously he means it in the strongest terms because he says that the potential for loss of our own soul is involved.
So what I want us to do is to review some important principles.
1. The Bible clearly teaches that whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved, (Romans 10:13) and whoever comes to Christ will not be cast out. (John 6:37)
2. We are justified freely by his grace and given the righteousness of God. (Romans 3;24; Phil 3:9) This righteousness includes all of the righteousness which is needed to meet all of the demands of God. This serves as sort of a shield or umbrella protecting us from God's wrath and gaining God's favor while our spiritual growth takes place. As we grow we will be able to deny ourselves in more and more areas of life and in deeper ways as the Holy Spirit brings these things to our attention.
3. When w are saved, we receive many benefits and resources:
God's commitment to finish what he started. (Phil 1:6) In other words, God brought the word to us, he gave us faith, he granted us repentance and he opened our hearts to the gospel.
Sanctification (1 Cor 1:30) which is applied by the Holy Spirit. (2 Thess 2:13)
God gives us a new heat with new motivations. (Ezekiel 36:27)
Being his sheep, we will follow him, but not follow others (John 10:4, 5)
God is at work in us both to will and to do of his good pleasure. (Phil 2:13; Heb 13:21)
The grace he gives us teaches us to deny ungodliness and to live righteous lives. (Titus 2:12)
God has promised to discipline us so we partake in his holiness without which we won't see the Lord (Heb 12:10, 14)
God has promised to prune the vine in order that we might bear fruit. (John 15)
4. God doesn't do it all for us while we sit around and do nothing, but his salvation provides not only the strength to follow and obey, but the desire, motivation, and faith that is required. God holds us responsible, but as Jesus said, "Without me you can do nothing."
Concluding Thoughts:
This is Christ's challenge for all Christians on a daily basis.
He is asking for ultimate loyalty --Jesus Christ above all things and all relationships. Daily the challenge is to put Christ first and reject self. "Today if you will hear his voice, do not harden your heart." (Heb 3:15)
Every day and throughout the day we face choices, to be obedient or not, to die to our own desires or not, to put Christ's teaching into practice or not, to serve others or not. Our choice is similar to the one Jesus gave Peter, "Lovest thou me more than these?"
Monday, March 18, 2013
Memorization Monday - Hebrews 4:9-10
Heb 4:9-10 There remains therefore a rest for the people of God. For he who has entered His rest has himself also ceased from his works as God did from His.
The "rest" spoken of in this chapter is not heaven. The author speaks of the rest being available "today". What he is speaking of is the fact that when we truly understand that our salvation is a gift from God, and not from our own works or effort, we enter into that trusting relationship where we realize that God has it all under control. He has undertaken our salvation and our growth in faith and he can be trusted with it. It doesn't mean we don't do anything. But it means that we don't carry the stress of trying to keep God from being angry with us. If we are a believer, then we are accepted because of what Christ has done for us and we can rest in that.
The "rest" spoken of in this chapter is not heaven. The author speaks of the rest being available "today". What he is speaking of is the fact that when we truly understand that our salvation is a gift from God, and not from our own works or effort, we enter into that trusting relationship where we realize that God has it all under control. He has undertaken our salvation and our growth in faith and he can be trusted with it. It doesn't mean we don't do anything. But it means that we don't carry the stress of trying to keep God from being angry with us. If we are a believer, then we are accepted because of what Christ has done for us and we can rest in that.
Monday, March 11, 2013
Memorization Monday - Hebrews 3:14
Heb 3:14 For we have become partakers of Christ if we hold the beginning of our confidence steadfast to the end,
Perseverance is an important Scriptural principle. Those whom God saves, He keeps. It's His power that keeps us. As Jesus says in John 10:28-29 "And I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand. My Father, who has given them to Me, is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of My Father’s hand."
The writer of the book of Hebrews is explaining that holding our confidence steadfast to the end is the sure sign that God has actually saved us. It is not saying that we must hold on to the faith at all costs that we don't allow ourselves to be lost. He is saying that maintaining our confidence is proof of our salvation.
If you would like to see the entire list of recommended verses from Hebrews to memorize in 2013, check here.
We've also produced a Bible study guide on the book of Hebrews you may be interested in. You can find it here.
Perseverance is an important Scriptural principle. Those whom God saves, He keeps. It's His power that keeps us. As Jesus says in John 10:28-29 "And I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand. My Father, who has given them to Me, is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of My Father’s hand."
The writer of the book of Hebrews is explaining that holding our confidence steadfast to the end is the sure sign that God has actually saved us. It is not saying that we must hold on to the faith at all costs that we don't allow ourselves to be lost. He is saying that maintaining our confidence is proof of our salvation.
If you would like to see the entire list of recommended verses from Hebrews to memorize in 2013, check here.
We've also produced a Bible study guide on the book of Hebrews you may be interested in. You can find it here.
Tuesday, March 05, 2013
Questions, Questions, Questions - Luke 9:25
Luke 9:25:
“For what profit is it to a man if he gains the
whole world, and is himself destroyed or lost?”
This is
another installment in my on again off again series on questions in
the Bible. Today we look at a question Jesus posed in Luke 9:25:
“For what profit is it to a man if he gains the
whole world, and is himself destroyed or lost?” The parallel verse
in Matthew 16:26 reads this way: “For what profit is it to a man if
he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man
give in exchange for his soul?”
Jesus' question in Luke
comes after explaining what is required of those who want to follow
him. In verse 23 he says first of all a person should “deny
himself.” It doesn't say to deny oneself something as in denying
oneself chocolate. It says we are to deny ourselves. This is
extremely difficult because by nature we are focused on ourselves and
have a desire to make sure we have everything we need and want. Our
focus is on ourselves most of the time. But what Jesus wants us to
understand is that we need to give up on that approach to life and
focus on him and his mission in the world.
The second thing Jesus
says we need to do if we want to follow him is to take up our cross.
Often people will say things like, “My husband is difficult to live
with. He's my cross to bear.” Or someone may say that their illness
is their cross to bear. I don't think that is what Jesus is saying
here. The cross was not merely a burden when Jesus carried his, but
it was the instrument of execution. Jesus is basically asking us to
die to ourselves. Paul, in 1 Corinthians 15:31 says, “I die daily.”
What he means by that is that he is giving up on his own rights and
desires in order to serve Christ.
I can't go into all of
the details here, but God sees Christians as being in Christ and
having died with him. Because of that, we should consider ourselves
dead to sin, the world, and our own agenda. In 2 Corinthians 5:15
Paul says it this way, “If one died for all then all died and He
died for all, that those who live should live no longer for
themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again.” In
other words Jesus Christ “took the bullet” for us when he died on
the cross. We now owe him everything. So our lives should not be
focused on us but on him.
Finally he says that
this approach should be a daily occurence. The Bible is very
practical in that it describes many actions that we are to carry out
daily. God understands that we cannot live our entire lives at once.
It is a day-to-day thing. So each day we must consider ourselves dead
to sin, dead to the attractions of the world, and dead to our own
desire to be the center. We are to rather focus on what would bring
God glory and advance his agenda in the world.
He emphasizes his point
in verse 24 when he tells us that whoever would save his life will
lose it. And, whoever loses his life for Christ's sake and for the
gospel's sake will keep it. That's a pretty strong distinction. It's
one that Jesus says in another place we should think seriously about
and count the cost.
So back to the
question: “For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole
world, and is himself destroyed or lost?” The answer of course is
that there is no profit in gaining everything else but losing oneself
or ones soul. The way to avoid losing ones soul is to stop seeking
our own way, turn to Christ, trust him and commit ourselves to being
his follower. In response to that faith God promises to save our
souls and grant us the gift of eternal life. It can't be earned or
worked for, but must be received by faith.
Monday, March 04, 2013
Memorization Monday - Hebrews 3:12-13
Heb 3:12-13 Beware, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief in departing from the living God; but exhort one another daily, while it is called “Today,” lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.
I see a couple of important things in these verses. First, there is the warning to the brethren. I take that to mean fellow Christians. Now I don't believe that a true believer can ultimately fall from grace, but on the other hand, this is a pretty strong warning. It's a warning to be careful that we don't have an evil heart of unbelief. We shouldn't just presume upon God's grace with the plan that we can be disobedient and unbelieving.
Second, God calls an unbelieving heart an evil heart. Unbelief is the chiefest of evils. It is the evil that says to God, "I don't believe you are who you say you are and I don't believe you have the right to tell me how to live."
Third, I see the importance of the body. We are to encourage one another each day. Sin is deceitful and has a hardening effect on our lives and we need to be there for each other to help motivate one another to avoid sin and its effects on our lives.
If you would like to see the entire list of recommended verses from Hebrews to memorize in 2013, check here.
We've also produced a Bible study guide on the book of Hebrews you may be interested in. You can find it here.
I see a couple of important things in these verses. First, there is the warning to the brethren. I take that to mean fellow Christians. Now I don't believe that a true believer can ultimately fall from grace, but on the other hand, this is a pretty strong warning. It's a warning to be careful that we don't have an evil heart of unbelief. We shouldn't just presume upon God's grace with the plan that we can be disobedient and unbelieving.
Second, God calls an unbelieving heart an evil heart. Unbelief is the chiefest of evils. It is the evil that says to God, "I don't believe you are who you say you are and I don't believe you have the right to tell me how to live."
Third, I see the importance of the body. We are to encourage one another each day. Sin is deceitful and has a hardening effect on our lives and we need to be there for each other to help motivate one another to avoid sin and its effects on our lives.
If you would like to see the entire list of recommended verses from Hebrews to memorize in 2013, check here.
We've also produced a Bible study guide on the book of Hebrews you may be interested in. You can find it here.
Sunday, March 03, 2013
Hymn of the Week - Wounded for Me
Wounded for Me
Wounded for me, wounded for me,
There on the cross He was wounded for me;
Gone my transgressions, and now I am free,
All because Jesus was wounded for me.
Dying for me, dying for me,
There on the cross He was dying for me;
Now in His death my redemption I see,
All because Jesus was dying for me.
Risen for me, risen for me,
Up from the grave He has risen for me;
Now evermore from death's sting I am free,
All because Jesus has risen for me.
Living for me, living for me,
Up in the skies He is living for me;
Daily He's pleading and praying for me,
All because Jesus is living for me.
Coming for me, coming for me,
Soon in the air He is coming for me;
Then with what joy His dear face I shall see,
Oh, how I praise Him! He's coming for me.
source: http://www.lyricsondemand.com/miscellaneouslyrics/christianlyrics/woundedformewoundedformelyrics.html
There on the cross He was wounded for me;
Gone my transgressions, and now I am free,
All because Jesus was wounded for me.
Dying for me, dying for me,
There on the cross He was dying for me;
Now in His death my redemption I see,
All because Jesus was dying for me.
Risen for me, risen for me,
Up from the grave He has risen for me;
Now evermore from death's sting I am free,
All because Jesus has risen for me.
Living for me, living for me,
Up in the skies He is living for me;
Daily He's pleading and praying for me,
All because Jesus is living for me.
Coming for me, coming for me,
Soon in the air He is coming for me;
Then with what joy His dear face I shall see,
Oh, how I praise Him! He's coming for me.
source: http://www.lyricsondemand.com/miscellaneouslyrics/christianlyrics/woundedformewoundedformelyrics.html
Thursday, February 28, 2013
Technology and the Christian - Part 20 Pornography
See past articles for context. (Part 1 here; Part 19 here)
With that
background in mind, how does technology fit into the picture?
Technology, whether it is TV, video, or Internet based can bring us
realistic portrayals of sexual situations that in turn trigger the
strong sexual desires that are built into us. With men, the strong
desires that are aroused through what we see can be very powerful.
The Bible calls these lusts. These lusts then can give rise to sin if
not dealt with.
Jesus tells us
that, “whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already
committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28. From this
simple statement we can see that Jesus' standard is very high. If we
are to avoid this kind of potential sexual sin, we need to take
precautions. Jesus' very next statement is to say that if our eye
offends us, we should pluck it out. Now we could debate whether He
was serious or whether He was using hyperbole to prove a point, but
nevertheless, it's obvious He takes this very seriously and we should
take whatever precautions we can to avoid this sort of sinning. The
Apostle Peter wrote to his readers, “I beg you to abstain from
fleshly lusts which war against the soul.” (I Peter 2:11) Peter
knew that lusts and strong desires can actually make war against our
very souls. We are to abstain from such lusts. They can harm us deep
within our psyche. Paul told Timothy to flee from such lusts. So the
admonition for us is to do whatever we can to avoid situations that
produce these self-destructive lusts and cause them to flourish.
The problem with lust is that it is
never satisfied. Sexual immorality of all kinds promises that it will
meet the inner longings of our souls, but it never does. We are
trapped into an ever deepening desire for more and the satisfaction
we derive from our sin becomes less and less. God's secret to
happiness is what Jesus taught the people in the Sermon on the
Mount—"Happy is the man who hungers and thirsts for righteousness."
While this seems totally foreign to the modern mind it is God's way
of finding satisfaction. Do we believe God or the world system? Our
direction and focus needs to be toward a life of righteousness.
In Ephesians 5:10,
Paul tells us that we should find out what pleases the Lord. In verse
11 he tells us not to have any fellowship with the unfruitful works
of darkness, and then in verse 12 he explains that it is shameful to
even speak about things which are done by them in secret. In other
words, there are things that displease God that people do in secret
and it's shameful for Christians to even speak about these things.
So let's take these
ideas and put them together. We as Christians are to avoid the
immorality that is initiated in our minds by the things which we see;
and we are to not even talk about the kinds of things that people do
under the cover of darkness or in secret. Focusing our attention on
these things can trigger strong desires that war on our souls and do
great spiritual damage.
So what does that
tell us about TV viewing for example? Doesn't this mean that we
should take every precaution in our viewing to avoid those programs
and commercials that either trigger immoral thoughts in our minds, or
display or discuss immoral activities in detail? In this case, I'm
not even talking about pornography. I'm just suggesting that we take
great care not to become careless and accustomed to immorality and
casual sexual content because in doing so, our own minds can become
fertile ground for imagined sexual activity that Jesus condemns.
If these things are
true, then what does that say about actual pornography? There's no
question that exposure to graphic sexual material will produce strong
sexual lusts in our minds and in our bodies that we cannot
legitimately act upon from God's point of view. This being the case,
we as Christian men need to take every precaution to avoid getting
ourselves into the trap that pornography represents.
Technology itself
can be addicting as we have discussed before. When you add
pornography to the technology, you have a powerful mix. The Bible
often speaks of diligence when it comes to the Christian life. It
takes a great deal of diligence to avoid the entrapping nature of
pornography. What are some of the things we can do to avoid the trap?
First I think we
need to look at our lives to see if we really have the desire to live
a life that is honoring to God no matter what the cost. This is where
a lot of it falls down. We may claim that we are Christians, and we
very well may be, but we don't really want to sacrifice the time and
attention that it takes to live a consistent, biblical, righteous
Christian life.
Second, we need to
look at our personal spiritual disciplines carefully. Are we
regularly taking the time to pray? Are we reading, studying and
meditating on the Scriptures regularly? Are we regularly involved
with other Christians in fellowship, prayer and ministry? If not, we
are making ourselves vulnerable in many areas including our
sexuality.
I've put together a
summary of offensive and defensive strategies for fighting against
the lusts which war against our soul. You can find it here.
In addition to
making sure our Christian life is being supported the way it needs to
be, here are some other steps you can take to increase accountability
and provide protection for yourself and your family.
- Make sure TV viewing is open and public within the home. Children should not have televisions in their rooms where they can watch what they want without supervision.
- If you live alone and can't control what you watch, get rid of the TV. (Remember Jesus telling us to pluck out our eye or cut off our arm?)
- Computer use should be open and public within the home. Children should not have computers with Internet access or DVD capabilities in their rooms.
- Husbands, give your wife complete access to your computer, your browsing history, your Facebook passwords... everything.
- Establish an accountability partner who has your permission to ask you anything he wants about your viewing and browsing habits.
- If necessary, sign up for a filtering service that will email your browsing history to your wife or an accountability person.
- If possible, avoid owning a smart phone. Under no circumstances should teenagers have a smart phone. That sounds radical, I know, but why do any of us have to have access to the Internet 24/7? Do you honestly think a 16 year old boy can keep away from pornography if he has Internet access on his phone where ever he is? Think about it!
Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Technology and the Christian - Part 19 Pornography
Previous articles - Part 1 here; Part 18 here
The Bible describes sexual sin with
several different terms. One term, porneia,
is used for any sexual sin that is outside of the norm and standard
that God designed. The Greek word I referred to here you will
recognize as the root word for our word pornography.
Another Greek term is translated
adultery and usually
refers to sexual sin committed by a married person. Another couple of
terms refer to sexual sin as uncleanness
or lewdness. God uses
all of these words to describe sins whereby we violate God's standard
for our sexual behavior.
Let's look at some of the descriptions
the Bible lays out. Let's start with what Jesus actually said. In
Mark 7:21 Jesus, speaking about the fact that sin comes from within a
man, says, “For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil
thoughts, sexual immorality (porneia,
fornication),...adultery,
...sensuality (lewdness, sexual excess).
All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”
Notice a couple of things here. First of all they come from within.
The Bible says that the heart is deceitful and desperately wicked.
(Jeremiah 17:9) So the source of our difficulty is not from the
outside, but is from within. James writes that “each one is tempted
when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then when
desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is
full-grown, brings forth death.”
Next we see that Jesus describes these
actions as evil. Most of what happens sexually in our culture is not
considered evil. The Bible has a different approach. Lastly we
notice that they defile a person. We defile ourselves from what comes
from within ourselves.
Paul, writing to the Romans in 13:13
says, “Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and
drunkenness, not in sexual immorality (free and easy sex)
and sensuality.” In the next verse he tells us to make no
provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires. In other words,
we should not make it easy to serve our lusts. Paul writes similar
things to the Corinthians in 2 Corinthians 12:21.
To the Ephesians in
5:3 he writes, “But sexual immorality and all impurity or
covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among
saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking
which are out of place. Be sure of this, that everyone who is
sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an
idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let
no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the
wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.” In other words,
God's wrath is coming because people engage in these behaviors. Why
would we as Christians want to be a participant?
Finally,
let's look at what the Apostle Peter wrote in his first letter. In
4:2 he says that we should live “no longer for human passions but
for the will of God. The time that is past suffices for doing what
the Gentiles want to do, living in sensuality (lewdness,
sexual excess), passions,
drunkenness, orgies, drinking parties, and lawless idolatry.” He
is basically saying that we need to put our past behavior behind us
and live for God from here on out. And the life we live for God is
different than the description of our past life. Christians don't
behave the same as non-Christians when it comes to sexuality.
Tomorrow, with that background in mind,
we'll look at how technology fits into the picture and some
strategies that may help us in the battle against sexual sin.
Part 20 available once it is published here.
PDF version of the entire series
Part 20 available once it is published here.
PDF version of the entire series
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Technology and the Christian - Part 18 Pornography
See previous articles in this series. Part 1 here; Part 17 here
The final topic I'd like to cover in
this series is the one that many of you may have thought would be the
one that would come up first – pornography.
This article is primarily directed at
men who are trying to be faithful followers of Jesus Christ. Some of
you who may not be familiar with Jesus' teaching may find these
thoughts unusual in light of the culture we live in today where
virtually anything goes. As Christians we believe that the Bible is
God's word to man, and a Christian man who is trying to be faithful
to his Lord will try to govern his life according to God's will as
given in the Bible.
The purpose of this series of articles
has been to examine the relationship between technology and the
Christian. However, I think that in order to explain the sexual
implications of technology I need to lay the groundwork of a few
principles from the Bible that I'm assuming in this discussion. Each
of these ideas could generate a full chapter on their own, but I will
just summarize them here.
The first thing we need to remember is
that God created sex and sexuality. Sex in itself is not a dirty or
vulgar thing. It is a God-given gift. Next we need to remember that
God has told us in Scripture that sex is to be enjoyed, but that
enjoyment is to be within the relationship of marriage between a man
and a woman. All through the Bible the rightful sexual relationship
within marriage is praised and held up as a joyful thing.
After Adam sinned, man's nature became
sinful in all areas of his being and strong desires, which the Bible
calls lusts, began to have a dominant force in a person's life. The
Bible says that the strong desires of the body (or the flesh
as the Bible describes it), the strong desires coming through
our vision, and the pride of life are not from God the Father, but
are part of the world system. (I John 2:16) These strong desires
are very difficult to overcome and without the Spirit of God at work,
it's almost impossible.
When a person comes to Christ, God
gives him His Spirit and divine power to enable him to overcome these
desires and to live a life that pleases God. We need to recognize
that God has given us commands and directives because He is the one
who created us and He knows best what is good for our well-being. We
should never look at the commandments of God as though they were
meant to spoil our fun. When we buy a product, a manufacturer will
often enclose a list of instructions that shows the proper way to use
the device. For example, we are perhaps not supposed to use the
device in the water. It may cause damage to the device or injury to
us. These are rules written by the ones who know best how things are
supposed to work. The same is true of God's rules for us.
Tomorrow we'll look at the ways that
the Bible describes various sexual sins.
Part 19 available once it's published here.
PDF version of the entire series
Part 19 available once it's published here.
PDF version of the entire series
Monday, February 25, 2013
Memorization Monday - Hebrews 2:15
I'm putting verse 15 here with verse 14 from last week so that you can see the whole thought.
Heb 2:14-15 Inasmuch then as the children have partaken of flesh and blood, He Himself likewise shared in the same, that through death He might destroy him who had the power of death, that is, the devil, and release those who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage.
We are subject to bondage because of our fear of death. Jesus Christ took on human flesh and blood in order to suffer for sin and in so doing destroys and devil's ability to drive us the despair of death. Ultimately the devil and death will be thrown into the lake of fire and be forever gone.
If you would like to see the entire list of recommended verses from Hebrews to memorize in 2013, check here.
We've also produced a Bible study guide on the book of Hebrews you may be interested in. You can find it here.
Heb 2:14-15 Inasmuch then as the children have partaken of flesh and blood, He Himself likewise shared in the same, that through death He might destroy him who had the power of death, that is, the devil, and release those who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage.
We are subject to bondage because of our fear of death. Jesus Christ took on human flesh and blood in order to suffer for sin and in so doing destroys and devil's ability to drive us the despair of death. Ultimately the devil and death will be thrown into the lake of fire and be forever gone.
If you would like to see the entire list of recommended verses from Hebrews to memorize in 2013, check here.
We've also produced a Bible study guide on the book of Hebrews you may be interested in. You can find it here.
Saturday, February 23, 2013
Technology and the Christian - Part 17
For context see previous articles (Part 1 here; Part 16 here)
In her book Distracted, Maggie Jackson writes, “Moreover, a boundaryless world means that coming home doesn't signal the end of the workday anymore than being on vacation is a time of pure relaxation or being under one roof marks the beginning of unadulterated family time. We rarely are completely present in one moment or for one another....To cope and to keep up with our pulsing personal orbits, we live in worlds of our own making, grazing from separate menus, plugged into our own bedroom-based media centers, adhering to customized schedules. … Seventeen percent of the families in the UCLA study consistently ate dinner together. On weekdays, the parents and at least one child came together in a room just 16 percent of their time at home. True, hours together don't automatically translate into intimacy. But if we can't be bothered to keep coming together in the fullest, richest sense of the word, we lose the opportunity to form those deeper bonds. ... Are we losing our willingness to wade down into the painful, soulful depths of human relations? 'When you can have a face-to-face conversation, do you? When you're right in very close proximity, do you bother?' asked Ochs. 'I'm afraid we're going to wake up and think, “Oh my gosh, we could have been having a conversation.”'”
In her book Distracted, Maggie Jackson writes, “Moreover, a boundaryless world means that coming home doesn't signal the end of the workday anymore than being on vacation is a time of pure relaxation or being under one roof marks the beginning of unadulterated family time. We rarely are completely present in one moment or for one another....To cope and to keep up with our pulsing personal orbits, we live in worlds of our own making, grazing from separate menus, plugged into our own bedroom-based media centers, adhering to customized schedules. … Seventeen percent of the families in the UCLA study consistently ate dinner together. On weekdays, the parents and at least one child came together in a room just 16 percent of their time at home. True, hours together don't automatically translate into intimacy. But if we can't be bothered to keep coming together in the fullest, richest sense of the word, we lose the opportunity to form those deeper bonds. ... Are we losing our willingness to wade down into the painful, soulful depths of human relations? 'When you can have a face-to-face conversation, do you? When you're right in very close proximity, do you bother?' asked Ochs. 'I'm afraid we're going to wake up and think, “Oh my gosh, we could have been having a conversation.”'”
My hope is that as Christians, we will
not be absorbed into the world's way of thinking about these things.
Relationships are important to God. Satan would do all that he can to
disrupt and destroy relationships because good relationships are an
image of God and he hates that image to be portrayed with all of the
love and self-sacrifice that is an accurate portrayal of God.
Our technologies, as helpful as they
are, have the capacity to disrupt and break down the most crucial and
intimate relationships of the home and family. We must not be naive
about this. We must be on the alert and take active steps to counter
the communication breaking aspects of our technology. It makes no
sense to use less than ideal communication media to communicate with
people who are further removed from us when the people we should be
caring for are right there and the means to communicate face-to-face
is immediately available.
So what are some steps we could take to
counterbalance the tendencies we've discussed? Two choices are not
really possible. The first is to throw our hands in the air and say
we can't fight it. It's too hard and we can't make any progress. The
other choice is to say that the good old days were better. Let's get
rid of all the technology and return to a previous life. That is not
going to happen. So what can we do?
- Realize and accept the fact that you do have the power to control the technology and to manage it for the glory of God.
- On the personal level, make the conscious decision that “wherever you are, be all there.” (Jim Elliott)
- Based on the previous decision, refuse to take cell calls, look at text messages or emails during times that call for your participation listening and interacting with others. That would mean during meal times either at home or in restaurants when you're with others.
- Be careful even during group events such as watching a movie or ball game together. I have discussed the implications of multi-tasking on the brain as well as the importance of being involved socially with others and so if you are involved in a shared experience, participate in that experience without being distracted by your technology.
- If you're in the kind of setting where reading a physical magazine, book or newspaper would be appropriate, you should be able to read any of these on an electronic device as well. But beware of the tendency to jump from thing to thing. Control your self. Do not allow yourself to be controlled by the technology.
- Whether you're with others or not, control the urge to flit around the internet, hitting links in an almost mindless way. Your brain will become less able to focus.
- If you are a parent this and the following suggestions are for you. Restrict cell phone use. Children do not need to be in communication with their friends at all hours. Perhaps they have a cell phone for safety reasons while away from home, but all phones go on the recharging table when they are home.
- There's no good reason for children and teens to have smart phones. The Internet is not a safe place. As a young man told me just yesterday, “There is no good reason for a 15 year old boy to have unlimited and unrestricted access to what's on the Internet.”
- Children and teens shouldn't have TV or computers in their bedrooms. Everything done on a computer should be out in the open in public.
- If you allow your children to use Facebook or other social media, you must be their friend online and read through what gets posted both to and from them.
- Teach your children electronic etiquette – No phones during meals; don't interrupt a conversation with a friend to take a call or check a text message; etc.
References:
Challies,
Tim. The Next Story: Life and Faith after the Digital
Explosion. Grand Rapids, MI:
Zondervan, 2011.
Jackson,
Maggie. Distracted: The Erosion of Attention and the Coming
Dark Age. Amherst, NY:
Prometheus, 2008.
Friday, February 22, 2013
Technology and the Christian - Part 16
For context see previous articles (Part 1 here; Part 15 here)
God is interested in interpersonal relationships. The members of the trinity have loved each other since eternity past and have been carrying on a loving communicating relationship forever. When God created us, he created us in his image. One of the things that means is that he created us as communicating beings. He gave us faces so that we could see one another as we communicated. We could read each others facial expressions, point of focus, eye movements, and so on. Proverbs 15:30 says the light of the eyes rejoices the heart.
References:
God is interested in interpersonal relationships. The members of the trinity have loved each other since eternity past and have been carrying on a loving communicating relationship forever. When God created us, he created us in his image. One of the things that means is that he created us as communicating beings. He gave us faces so that we could see one another as we communicated. We could read each others facial expressions, point of focus, eye movements, and so on. Proverbs 15:30 says the light of the eyes rejoices the heart.
In his book The Next Story, Tim
Challies explains that before the fall, God and man had direct
communication. (page 93)
He calls this immediate
communication. The prefix im
means not, as in
immature, meaning not
mature. So immediate communication is communication that is not
mediated. In other words it is face to face with no intervening
medium. Challies contends that this is God's preference and ideal. He
writes, “I would argue that it [mediated communication] is, in
fact, a lower form of communication, one that is intended to be a
mere supplement to our lives. The best relationships we can have are
not those that rely on mediation, but rather the ones that allow for
unmediated contact and communication.” By unmediated contact he
means face to face communication. I agree with this assessment. We
thank God for means of communication that allow us to be in contact
with family and friends that are far away. Sending a letter or email
or text message allows us to communicate with those with whom we
cannot have immediate communication.
When we were first
created, God had face-to-face communication with us. After the fall,
God basically turned aside in a way and Adam for his part hid so God
couldn't see him. Ultimately God sent Jesus Christ to be the mediator
between God and man so that fellowship and communion could exist. God
wants immediate communication with us and he desires that we have
immediate communication with one another.
But what's
happening now is that we turn our backs on the immediate
communication we could be having with family or friends who are right
with us and communicating in a mediated way with others. We are
neglecting what is arguably the ideal method of communication and
substituting an inferior type of communication on purpose. Besides
switching to an inferior mode of communication, it is often
communication with someone who is further removed from us
relationally than those right around us.
Challies,
Tim. The Next Story: Life and Faith after the Digital
Explosion. Grand Rapids, MI:
Zondervan, 2011.
Jackson,
Maggie. Distracted: The Erosion of Attention and the Coming
Dark Age. Amherst, NY:
Prometheus, 2008.
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Technology and the Christian - Part 15
See previous articles for context. Part 1 here; Part 14 here
Another difference I've discovered about technology media compared to print media is that it tends to hold our attention more. Often that's because a video is somehow involved, or because the communication is fluid. That is it's changing. There are new postings and responses all of the time. It used to be when a person was reading a book and another person in the room wanted to say something, it wasn't too difficult to pull the attention away from the book to listen to the other person. When that happened to me, I would usually put a finger down where I had left off and then listen to what was being said and reply back and forth if that was called for. Now, when someone interrupts a person using a computer or phone or other device, it's hard for the person to break away. There's a tendency to keep looking back at the device that has grabbed our attention. This leaves the other person feeling like they are not as important as whatever it is that's showing on the screen.
Another difference I've discovered about technology media compared to print media is that it tends to hold our attention more. Often that's because a video is somehow involved, or because the communication is fluid. That is it's changing. There are new postings and responses all of the time. It used to be when a person was reading a book and another person in the room wanted to say something, it wasn't too difficult to pull the attention away from the book to listen to the other person. When that happened to me, I would usually put a finger down where I had left off and then listen to what was being said and reply back and forth if that was called for. Now, when someone interrupts a person using a computer or phone or other device, it's hard for the person to break away. There's a tendency to keep looking back at the device that has grabbed our attention. This leaves the other person feeling like they are not as important as whatever it is that's showing on the screen.
One other
related issue is that it used to be that when family gathered in the
living room after a meal or whatever, they would easily carry on
conversations. Even if someone was browsing a magazine or knitting or
something like that, the conversation could continue. When there were
normal lulls in the conversation, someone would bring up another
topic and the conversation would continue. What's happening now is
that we feel the tug to keep doing something “profitable” during
those lulls and so we pull out the phone or computer so that we can
keep tabs on something else, other than what's going on in the room.
The problem is that it is not as easy to return to the conversation
again and people don't know whether to interrupt or not. Some people
even plan ahead so that they have their device ready for those lulls.
When they do this, it looks to others like they are prepared for the
conversation to be uninteresting and unimportant. It sends exactly
the opposite signal from the one we should be sending.
...To Be Continued...
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Technology and the Christian - Part 14
As I was thinking through the thoughts
I shared last time, I was thinking through the difference between the
way we interact with technology and the way we used to interact with
newspapers or books. We've all seen the older sitcoms where a woman
would be trying to speak to her husband, but he would be hiding
behind a newspaper. He was shutting her out of his world during the
time he was reading the paper.
My dad was a pastor. He loved to read
and so he almost always had a book with him. When we'd go on
vacation, as soon as he had a chance, he would sit down somewhere in
the shade and read his book. This would sometimes perturb my mother
because she often had other ideas of what she would rather have him
do with his time, especially time she considered to be family time.
In both of these scenarios, it's
important for a husband to learn to be attentive to the needs and
desires of his wife and family. It was still possible to be withdrawn
and separated from those around us even when the technology consisted
of paper and ink.
But I've been asking myself the
question as to whether our issue today is just another version of the
same thing or is it fundamentally different. On the surface there are
some of the same issues. I can be reading the daily news on my Ipod
when my wife wants to get my attention about something. An Ipod isn't
as big as a newspaper and so she can easily see my face. Or, I can
be on vacation and when I think I have a good opportunity, I can go
off somewhere and read a book on a Kindle. Is this different or the
same as what happened in previous generations?
On another level, the two media pose
completely different circumstances that I think we as Christians need
to look at very carefully. With print media, one is normally locked
into one task. When I'm reading a book, everyone around me knows I'm
reading a book. If I decide I'd like to check on the yesterday's
sports scores, I will put down the book and go pick up the newspaper.
If my son is reading the sports page, I have to wait until he's
finished. I don't know how other people are, but very seldom, if I
had five minutes of free time between getting dressed and leaving for
work would I go find my book, pick it up, and read a page. Because I
wasn't used to so much distraction and multi-tasking, my brain didn't
think it needed to find some little thing to do during every quiet
space in the day.
How do things differ now with
technology? Let me use myself as an example. I have an Ipod Touch
that I use for just about everything except typing. I mean I can
study my Bible, check the weather, read the news, read any number of
different books, play games, text people, send out tweets, check on
Facebook, etc. Because I am older, I tend to use this tool more like
I would the device it replaces. In other words, when I read, I tend
to read it the way I would a book. Younger people tend to be much
more distracted and multi-tasking than I am. But having said that, I
have noticed some tendencies that automatically come with this type
of technology.
I may be reading my Bible and
meditating on it, but then wonder what today's weather is going to be
like. So almost in mid-sentence I may switch over and check the
weather. Then I'll wonder what the 10-day outlook is and so might
check that out. Needless to say, this breaks my train of thought. I
may be reading another book when I wonder if anyone has posted a
response to a grandchild's picture I posted on Facebook and so might
switch over there to see what's been happening. Someone there may
have referenced a cute You Tube video and so I might check that out
and chuckle as I see the inane antics of some 2 year old. Meanwhile,
the thoughts evoked by the book I was reading are long gone.
All of the previous events can take
place while I'm “reading” a text. But what about all of the other
snippets of time that are spread throughout the day? We have a
tendency to check in with the technology in almost every spare
minute. There is a draw there that was not present in the newspaper
and book. I'm not saying there is anything innately wrong about that,
but it has a pull. Can't you feel it? You have a few minutes while
your wife is putting dishes in the dishwasher and so you check out
the sports scores. She comes in the living room to find you looking
at your phone. It was just a few seconds and you found out what you
wanted to know and so you put it down. Later on there's a lull in the
conversation, if you ever got started in a conversation, and so you
check to see if anyone has updated Facebook. In a few more minutes
you remember that you had put a bid on Ebay and so you check your
email for a minute to see if there's a message there regarding your
bid. Again you set your phone aside, only to hear the familiar tone
that tells you someone has texted you. It would be rude to leave it
until tomorrow so you quickly check to see what that was about. Oh,
it was only Culver's restaurant telling you you could get a buy one
get one free Sundae on Thursday between 4 and 5 pm. That was
important, wasn't it? Through all of this you are pulled aside from
conversation with your wife or distracting you from what your
children are doing. Rather than talking to or playing with them, you
are fiddling with your phone.
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Technology and the Christian - Part 13
(For context, see Part 1 here; or Part 12 here)
Last time we looked at the fact that
the way we use technology often interferes with the personal
relationships and communication that God wants us to have.
Let's look at some relevant scripture
passages:
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands love your wives
as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. (Emphasis
mine.)
Philippians 2:3 In
lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
Romans 12:10 In
honor giving preference to one another
Galatians 5:13
Through love serve one another.
Deuteronomy 6:7 You
shall teach them (God's words) diligently to your children, and shall
talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way,
when you lie down, and when you rise up.
Romans 15:1-2 Let
each of us please his
neighbor for his
good, leading to edification.
After reading
passages such as these, I learn that my role as husband and father is
one that is supposed to be other focused. I am to be attentive to the
needs of my wife, not only giving preference to her, but making sure
that she is built up spiritually and emotionally. I am to esteem her
as better than myself when it comes to preferences in the use of
time, money and activities. I am not to be focused on pleasing myself
but on her good so she can be built up in her faith and character.
In addition, I am to spend time at all
times of the day in order to instill in my children the words and
commandments of God. My focus personally and for my family is one
that is to have a God-ward direction. I'm to make sure that I am
teaching my children to be focused on the needs and interests of
others rather than the natural tendency to focus on self.
However, when I make arrangements for
each of my children to have his/her own electronic entertainment, I
am teaching them that they don't have to learn to cater to the
desires and preferences of others. I am teaching them that each of us
can have what we want. Some may argue that such arrangements are not
taking away from the preferences of others because they too get to
listen to or watch what they want. But the issue is in learning to
communicate and submitting to one another. It's difficult to let
another person have the choice of the music I have to listen to or
the movie we're going to watch. My selfish self rebels against this.
If we all have to watch the same movie or listen to the same music
and share the same space, we learn to put others first and to share.
This doesn't come naturally, but it is what God wants from us. And as
parents we need to make our daily instruction an integral part of our
dialogue throughout the day's activities. Our decisions about how we
use technology impact that daily instruction.
It takes time to build and nurture
relationships. It takes time for me to nurture the relationship with
my wife and children, and it takes a lot of practice for children to
learn to relate with each other in the way I'm describing. The fact
that our technology has become ubiquitous and personal has worked
against us in the area of personal relationships. In fact just this
week as I was working on this, (January 2012), CNN had an article on
how multitasking hinders young people's social skills.
http://www.cnn.com/2012/01/25/tech/social-media/multitasking-kids/index.html)
We need to take steps to reverse the
trend and nurture the personal relationships in our lives the way God
intended. As parents we need to make sure we are fulfilling God's
desire for us to train up our children in the way they should go. As
spouses we need to fulfill God's design for marriage by being all
there for our spouse throughout the moments of every day.
...To Be Continued... Part 14 available after it is published here.
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